Let’s start with a quote that I heard again and have done in the past many times over the years, but for some reason it sunk in this time and well, I then went into it and thought that you lot out there in virtual world need to read my ramblings on it.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. … Actually, who are you not to be?”
— Marianne Williamson
Read it again.
That’s a full on mic‑drop moment. And in the gym, in the health game, in life — we often forget this. We’re so busy worrying we’re not allowed to shine, we’re not strong enough, not disciplined enough, we’re going to mess it up — that we miss the fact that we might actually be absolutely unstoppable.
If you’re on a journey to hit health goals — lose fat, build muscle, feel better in your skin — this quote is gold. Because much of the time the biggest barrier isn’t the weights or the calories. It’s the self‑sabotage. The little voice that says “you’re not good enough,” “you don’t deserve this,” “you’ll never be like them.”
Here’s how that plays out, how we can fight it, and how the fitness journey isn’t just about looking better — it’s about becoming who you were meant to be. And yes — you were meant to be something more.
The Sabotage: Why We Hide From Our Own Light
When you start training seriously, you’ll hit a weird wall. Not the one where you can’t lift more. The one where you realise you can. And you’re scared.
Think about it:
- You sign up for classes, you train hard, you see change — and instead of celebrating, you panic. “If I look better, what does that mean? Am I responsible now? What if I lose it again?”
- You prune your diet, then sneak that chocolate anyway because “I’ll never be perfect so what’s the point?”
- You eye a goal — leaner, stronger, fitter — and before you commit, you sabotage yourself so you don’t crawl out of the “not good enough” hole.
That fear? It’s not about being bad at something. It’s about being good. Really, really good. And that means leaving the familiar behind – the comfort of being average, invisible, safe.
That quote is calling us out: it’s your light that you’re afraid of. Not your darkness.
The Fitness Journey: More Than Squats and Shakes
Fitness is often marketed as “look better.” But the truth is deeper: it’s be better.
When you train consistently, eat mostly well, move purposefully — you’re rewriting your story.
You’re saying:
- “I deserve health.”
- “I am capable.”
- “I’m not done yet.”—
When you stop hiding behind excuses and start showing up, you engage with that part of you that: the powerful, brilliant, gorgeous, talented version.
That version shows up when:
- You let go of diets that make you miserable.
- You pick weights you fear because you’ve been told “women shouldn’t lift heavy.”
- You train when you’re tired anyway — not because you feel great, but because you respect your body enough to give it the effort.
Quit Sabotaging, Start Serving Yourself
Self‑sabotage is like doing 100 burpees before the warm‑up ( I know there are some freaks out there that love them) and then wondering why you’re sore by minute three.
Here’s how you dismantle it:
- Recognise the fear. Write it down: “What if I succeed and then regress?” or “What if I become the fit, strong person and they don’t like me anymore?”
- Replace the lying voice with the loving voice: “I AM allowed to be strong.” “I AM allowed to shine.”
- Anchor your identity: Instead of “I’m trying to be fit,” say: “I am someone who shows up.” “I train because I respect myself.”
- Habit stack the action: “After I finish work I will change into gym clothes.” Make the start easy so you can’t bail, or I will get my gym stuff ready before I go to bed so I can just get up and get going.
- Reward immediate wins: That 10 squats when you didn’t feel like it. That healthy meal when you were starving. These build the proof for your future self.
Fox Den Way: Shine On
Here’s how we do it at The Den:
Identity first: You’re not someone who does a workout. You’re someone who trains. You’re not someone who samples diets. You’re someone who fuels their body right.
Movement and consistency: Just turning up and getting things done.
Community and support: I want you to shine — not for me, not for Instagram, but for you. And I want you to raise those beside you. Start to inspire the people around you.
Progress over perfection: The version of you that chooses to show up when scared, tired, unmotivated — that’s the real you.
Final Word
So next time you feel the “I’m not enough” voice creeping in — stop.
Maybe whisper back, “Actually, who are you not to be?”
Train hard. Eat well. Sleep more than you think you need. Lift something heavy. Move your body. Show up again when you don’t feel like it.
Because you’re not chasing a number. You’re stepping into your light.
And just a reminder— you’ve got it.
Keep Smiling.
